vanae (happier you* guide)

after a breakup, you wonder if you’ll ever be friends again…considering all the pain, mistakes, intensity, love, happiness, and sorrow that you went through.

two highlights of my year are:
1) giving full forgiveness to my most recent ex-boyfriend and
2) to the guy who broke my heart a few years ago

it took me some time to get to this place of zen and realization that holding negative energy, makes your life heavy..it weighs it down.

one of the main things that helped me come to forgive, is reflecting back to my most recent relationship with B and realizing how healthy it was. it was the best relationship i’ve ever had. we shared our lives, our love, our friends, our compassion for people, our love for music and our growing pains. WE WERE BEST FRIENDS.

then we lost that closeness once we broke up, because i had resentments for the mistakes he made. now, i think about those mistakes and they are a speck of sand compared to what we can absorb from this world, from each other. to lose a best friend because it didn’t work out romantically…it’s a shame.

but i do have to mention, in order come to this point of forgiveness and peace, you must have spent enough time away from each other to reflect, understand and be at peace with yourself. it took me 3 years to respond to JB and let him know that i forgive him. and TONIGHT, i spoke to B and forgave him after a little over a year since we broke up.

but when i did, it meant the world to me. as it did to them.

have you forgiven your ex? how did you let them know?

vanae (feeling light as a feather)

watching this campaign by matt harding brought me extra inspiration for me to take on the world.
it’s the human connection, the vivid beauty of this planet and it’s cultures, and the smiles across the globe.

i have a plan in mind that i’ve been working on to do a global campaign, that will be released in january 2009. watch out! vanae’s coming to your neck of the world! and you heard it first here.

let’s enjoy matt’s video:

i believe in soulmates.
and i believe that there isn’t just ONE person for you on the planet, because if so, it’d be sad to think that you’d have to bump into him/her within 50 miles of your proximity.

the one(s) exist anywhere on this earth. and you may meet him/her randomly but most likely not when you’re looking for it. but here’s a funny episode of ’sexy beijing’ where a jewish chick is looking for a bf in city of beijing.

i love the theme. (i’m a huge ’sex and the city’ fan!)
also, love how fluent she is in mandarin. totally catches people off guard.

Danwei TV Sexy Beijing - Looking for Double Happiness - Funny bloopers are a click away

you know i’m always sharing badass music. this is the latest track on repeat on my mind…
boys noize kill it on top of already sweet feist track “my moon, my man”.

can you listen to this and not feel sexy?? not move to the beat? yeah, i thought so.

have you guys been following ‘supreme soul’ on america’s best dance crew season 2?

can i say…”smooooooth”?
the way the move… SEXY!

Americas Best Dance Crew (Season 2 Episode 2) Supreme Soul

new episode on:
how to break up with someone
and
how to survive a break up

http://youtube.com/watch?v=fIp1v8d20xU

what has helped you through a break-up?

“Is that a solar eclipse? No, it’s just Vi Vi…” jon makes fun, while we’re having a conversation about eating deep fried twinkies.

“vi vi” is my most recent nickname, which i think is cute and it comes in handy! typically, when i’m at a restaurant or public setting, it’s hard for people to pronounce or spell my name, so i go by ‘vi vi’ just to make some lives easier. i love giving people nicknames (well naming things in general). and when someone gives you a nickname, i think it’s special…gives you some insight on your relationship with him/her.

my past nicks have been:
- nae nae
- vroom vroom van
- caravan, minivan
- vanae nae
- nympho (uh, don’t even ask, =)

what are your nicknames?

ps- when i have kids, i’m going to give them these nicknames…”kiwi”, “coconut” and “mango” because these fruits are awesome. tropical. and carries a great cuteness.

a man whistling a happy tune, when i passed by him.

everyone who knows me, knows that i love asking ‘what’s your highlight of the dae?”.
i believe in it.
i believe it’s an important question to ask and think about.
the few moments it takes to think about your highlight makes all the difference to make your day even better. and you don’t dread the coming day..because there’s another highlight waiting to happen. every. day.

so what’s your highlight of the dae?

“Don’t make excuses — make good.”

quote by Elbert Hubbard

are you subscribed to ‘pick the brain‘ blog? you totally should! it’s a great blog on self-improvement and awareness. here’s a video sharing their tips on ‘how to be extroverted.